Saturday, January 15, 2011

When Life Gives You Lemonade

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about that old saying, "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade." You know this quote well, I'm sure. It seems like it's the go to when you're being told to make the best out of a bad situation. I've even heard variations of this quote, "When life hands you lemons...suck out all of the Vitamin C," "When life hands you lemons...ask for salt and tequila," "When life hands you lemons...find a kid with a paper cut" (that one's kind of mean, and I'm not sure it's really making the BEST out of a bad situation, sounds like sharing your pain with others?).

We've all heard this quote, and it's always said by someone meaning well. Telling us to make the best of the "sour" situation we're in. I often hear people using this term when talking about life with CF, or to people with CF. And while I get the motivation behind the statement, something, lately, isn't sitting right.

You see, this statement implies that the thing we're dealing with is inherently bad. But that may just be OUR perception of it. If the Lord gives you a struggle, in order to strengthen your character, your faith (and who knows what else) to further His plan and for our ultimate good, is that thing inherently bad? Romans 5:3,4 says: Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.

I understand that the argument then becomes, "Right, but that's the point of the saying, something good (Hope/Lemonade) can be made out of something bad (Suffering/Lemons)." But my rebuttal is this: How drastically different would our view of hardships be if all along we viewed them as lemonade? What if we never had to force ourselves to create the lemonade out of the lemons? Instead, what if every hand we were dealt we assumed was lemonade? Some lemonade may be more sour, some may be very sweet, but never-the-less, it's all lemonade.

How would your life look if everything was lemonade? How would your view of your job change? How would your view of our marriage change? How would your view of CF change? How much easier would the day be, if everything was lemonade?

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Interesting and I wish I could think that way about CF all the time. I hope as Aidan gets older, he will be able to. But as a parent to a 6 year old who dislikes CF and being sick all the time with such intensity I have to admit that it is difficult at times. The questions about why God made him like this are coming just about every day. I am not a big believer in 'because you were strong and he knew you could handle it' stuff. So I sometimes struggle how to explain it to him. We give him faith and hope in God but Aidan is crazy smart and analytical and likes the science to back it up. It is a constant struggle. But I have learned so much from having a child with CF and have learned to embrace all the positives it has brought into our lives.
Deep thoughts by Ronnie Sharp... ;) All great points and I love the verse!
I actually think that it's healthy to think of CF as "lemons" at times. It is difficult. No doubt about it. The negative feelings that sometimes go along with CF are normal, they are OK, they are expected... I actually think people who spend a great deal of energy denying that there is hardship with this disease are in a comfortable place for themselves emotionally. However, they can sometimes lead others to feel as though they are in some way failing in coping with this disease, if they don't blissfully accept the hand they were dealt. Honestly, I think it's a process. Sometimes the disease can give you perspective, sometimes if can make you love more deeply, sometimes if can be frustrating, sometimes infuriating, and sometimes really, really sad. con't below...
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I can totally understand what you're saying. And you're right, CF is difficult. I know Ronnie always said, "are you such you are ready and ok with taken on this life?" because he knew it was hard and different from what I had ever pictured for myself. And I agree with you 100% - it is good and normal to acknowledge the struggles that come with CF. I'm not in any way saying to ignore those feelings. What I'm saying is that you can choose to view things through a positive lens. Does that mean that you won't ever have struggles or think, "man, if only I didn't have CF"? Of course not! It just means that you choose to view CF through a positive lens. For example, hospital visits SUCK if you look at them through a negative lens. It could be seen as a struggle and horrible. But you could choose to view the hospital through a positive lens. The good things that come along with a hospital stay (for us, it's more time with his family, getting to hang out with our nurse friends, fun Saturday Dunkin' Donuts breakfast).

So it's not about ignoring the negative and the struggles. It's about looking at those struggles through a positive lens. Asking, "how can I grow from this?"

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I love these kinds of posts because it gets us all thinking and discussing! Thanks for sharing, Stacey!
For me, I always thought of CF as lemons until I had kids of my own. Now, I feel a sense of desperation about beating this thing that has been progressing despite my best efforts. Honestly, I would be lying to everyone, including myself, if I pretended to be completely at ease with my CF. But, I think that's OK for me. Just my 2 cents as a 35 year old CFer who tries to keep it positive, most of the time...
Thanks for posting this.
And, thanks everyone for your comments.
Although I don't have CF myself, being an "eternal optimist" for my son has proved to be harder than I thought it would be, mainly because of other people's opinions or thoughts.
I read that verse last week and thought that I should have it plastered on some wall of my house.
Hoping to plaster it on the walls of my son's heart when he's old enough.
Thanks for having this perspective, I know it's completely God-given and pray already that my 4 month old will be able to adopt an attitude similar to yours!
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If it's your attitude, it will likely be his!

The key to remember is that there will be struggles and days that you'll wonder why, but the key is to chose to view the struggles through a positive lens! God is working all things together for our good, whether or not we can see why or how! We can rejoice knowing that he is doing His work in us - for our ultimate good and for his Glory!

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