Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Who's (what's) Your Motivation??

I was going to name this post "Mandi the Motivator", but I thought it'd be more important for the 2 or 3 of you who are reading this right now to start thinking about yourself from the very get-go. When it comes to this CF life and going through the daily grind that we do, it's so important that we stay motivated. For the past 31 years my motivations have changed from being the best athlete I could be, to being a good big brother, to being the best husband I can be; the important thing is however, that for the most part, I've always had an external motivation. You'll hear a lot of people out there say, "you have to want to do it for yourself before you can want to do it for others". My honest opinion: HOGWASH. Not to offend my friends out there who believe that, but I just couldn't disagree more. When it comes down to it, it really doesn't matter who or what your motivation is as long as you're motivated. I think that any family member would agree that they would take their loved one being motivated by an external source over no motivation at all. It certainly helps to have a love for life and for yourself, but for the purposes of this conversation, it's not necessary.

[Now, let me tell you where a lot of them are coming from (which I do understand): Let's say that your girlfriend is you're one and only motivation and then you guys break-up. Now what? Is all of your motivation gone? Possibly. But if that time were to come, you better pull yourself up by the bootstraps and find another reason to kick butt (and it just may be yourself). Either that, or choose your motivations more wisely :) ]

I've written in blogs before that my wife and family are my motivation. That doesn't mean that a small part of me isn't committed to taking care of myself for me, but I can assure you that it is a very small part. For me, it's always been that way. Yeah I love my life. Yeah I love living. But I love the people in my life even more and they are the sole reason that I work as hard as I possibly can. When I look back on the best times of my life, they never involve me alone. They ALWAYS involve my friends and family. When it comes down to it, my only motivation is to be healthy enough to create more of those memories with the ones that I love.

Oh yeah, I have another motivation that will be here in 28 weeks...

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Thanks for the post. Sometimes I want to get lazy about treatments and I need a reminder of why I do the things I do despite feeling tired or wanting to do something else. I agree that motivation for someone else is better than no motivation at all. I like to think I have a little of both :)
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Thanks for reading Danielle. There's no doubt that it's tough to stay motivated, just remember that there are a ton of people out there who want you at your very best! :)
You have helped my girl in more ways that I can count. She used to be sedentary now she runs over 5k, daily, and does an elliptical machine. Thanks to you, I believe she is much healthier today!
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It is my absolute pleasure and honor to be a small part in your daughters life. If you're interested, I would love for you to think about writing a guest post for RSBR on your experience in seeing your daughter commit to exercise and what you feel it's done in her life.
Absolutely. I had no true motivation before. If being married isn't motivating, then there is something wrong with the communication going on there. Having a hot wife is an extra help, wouldn't you say? Nothing like being scolded by a hottie to stick a neb in your mouth for a while! Works for me.
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Scolding hotties are key :)
I don't have CF, but Azer is definitely my motivation to go out and run. Azer says that it's a good thing we found your blog and your running program, otherwise we would have never started it in the first place. So, you are totally our motivation as well!
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That's way too kind. If you wouldn't have seen it here, I'm sure you would have seen it on another CFers blog! Please let Azer know that HE is definitely one of MY motivations.
Great post Ronnie. I've been trying to help Rachel (5) find her motivation. Right now it consists of how many dogs we meet, birds we see, or sprinklers we can bike/run through. It's working and we're always out moving at least 30 minutes at a time.
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That's awesome! Sounds like you know what makes your daughter tick and using it to your full advantage. Nice move momma!
Ronnie, I'm in complete agreement with your perspective. So is Victor Frankl, the author of Man's Search for Meaning. Frankl's belief is that many people who survived the Holocaust did so because they found an external motivating force to keep them going despite the horrendous circumstances they faced daily.
If your external motivating force goes away, like the example you give of a relationship ending, then you must go right out and find something else to keep the flame in your heart and under your a** burning brightly. Keep on truckin Ronnie, you're amazing.
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You make stuff sound so much better!
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Somer Love · 728 weeks ago

Agreed! I am def a people pleaser!

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