Tuesday, September 9, 2014

IVF Prayer Requests

We haven't blogged about our journey to grow our family in awhile, so it's about time. As I said in our last post regarding our most recent miscarriage, we would keep you up to date, and well, I have slacked a little because there wasn't much going on to report. But now I write and with prayer requests!

I always said once we used through the frozen embryos we had, that would be it, we'd move on to something else. But our last two embryos didn't "stick" and the night we found that out, God presented an option to use two donated embryos. The door was open and so were our hearts, so we did the 9 weeks of medications, and did the transfer. Throughout that cycle I reverted back to my old thought process that if this one didn't work, I was done. I couldn't do it anymore. It was a lot on my body. It was a lot on our family...in every sense, mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially. We found out we were pregnant and within a week found out we had lost the pregnancy. It was hard. God revealed to us that we needed a bit of a break and that it was time to stop saying "we will do foster care once our family was complete." It became clear that we needed to follow His will in that area, even if it wasn't at a time we thought was "perfect", maybe especially because it wasn't a time that was our version of perfect. So we started the process to get licensed to foster, something that has always been on our hearts. We are currently in the throws of that process (currently taking the 10 weeks of required classes and almost have the house all ready for inspection).

...but we are also in the process of trying for another biological child. As we moved forward with the foster licensing, I just felt in my heart I wasn't ready to give up on carrying another child. I felt like us not trying again was me quitting because I was frustrated and tired, but not because that was what was right for our family. We met with our IVF doctor and he said something that hit me, "the easy part of my job is getting someone pregnant; the hard part is keeping a patient in the game long enough." He wasn't actually saying that getting me pregnant would be easy, but he was saying you have to play the odds sometimes. Sometimes it isn't easy, but if you stay in it long enough, you will get there. We have decided to go all the way back to the beginning. To take eggs and sperm and make more embryos. It seems a bit daunting, but we know in our hearts this is what is best for our family.

The last several cycles we have gone through "alone," in that, we haven't blogged them. We told a couple friends and a few family members, but we didn't want to burden others with the saga of it all, and honestly, we wanted to be able to surprise friends and family. But failed cycle after failed cycle, God began to reveal something to me. I have racked my brain reflecting on what was different with Mckenna verses our other cycles. I have tried to model that cycle when possible. But God kept putting it on my heart that the biggest difference, and maybe the only difference that matters, was prayer. With Mckenna, we blogged everything and everyone praying with us. The other cycles, our prayers went up alone. We believe whole-heartedly in the power of prayer, and so we will be blogging this cycle, and asking (read: begging) for you to join us in prayer.

We are doing two weeks of meds (which is the shortest protocol we've ever done..HUGE BLESSING!!!) before they go in and retrieve eggs. We start the meds cycle day one (men: cover your ears...that means whenever my period starts), which will be any day now. We meet with our doctor this morning to finalize the plan. Then it's showtime. We will post specific prayer requests over the next couple weeks, please join us in raising this process up...after all, doctors don't make babies, God makes babies!

Prayer Requests
- Today's appointment goes well, and we make the right decisions about the cycle
- My body responds well to the meds, and we get a lot of high quality eggs, sperm and embryos
- We are pregnant by the end of the year...sometimes you just gotta make the ask ;-)
- God blesses our family abundantly with lots and lots of babies through IVF and foster care!


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Hi Mandy, As someone who engaged in the IVF/FET process over a 4 year period, I completely understand being tired and frustrated. I too was successful on my first IVF and subsequently suffered 2 miscarriages (i.e.. 2 IVF cycles/ 2 FET cycles). There were so many times where I told my CF hubby I just couldn't do it, but in my heart I knew I wasn't ready to give up on my hopes for a second biological child. In fact, it was our last 2 embryos wherein I ended up with my second little boy. And the fact that you are simultaneously working to become foster parents is incredibly inspiring. While I am personally on the fence about God/prayer, I can certainly offer my support and positive thoughts regarding your requests. Good Luck!! Suzanne.
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Any support you can give is valuable Suzanne! Thank you!!
Lurker RRT & Jeremy's coworker... praying for your tiny miracle for Christmas.
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Thanks, Marcy!!
Lurker's prayers are heard just the same!!! :)
Sending up so many prayers for y'all! You guys provided a lot of hope for us when we were going through multiple IVF cycles to get pregnant with Emerson and your journey has really been on my mind lately. I'll be praying for lots and lots and LOTS of babies in your future!
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Thanks so much!!
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Monica Parks · 551 weeks ago

I put "Ronnie and Mandi" on our fridge prayer list and prayed for you every day of your ivf cycle with mckenna and prayed for your baby to be all through your pregnancy. I would pray and get nervous when you had a procedure or test coming up. I rejoiced when McKenna was born perfectly healthy! I felt like I was sharing in your experience and almost going through it with you, especially with our own hopes that someday it'd work for us. I totally understand wanting to feel "normal" and not put it out there and get to actually surprised oreo like "normal. :) I'm glad I know and I will be Praying for you again! :) lots of love!!
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You are endlessly caring. Thanks so much! We so appreciate the prayers and know that this may be the change that's needed. God is always good, and He will remain good throughout a successful or failed IVF cycle. Always the glory is His, but our hope is that by doing it this way, He can use it even more! We love you guys!!!
Wow, we made the prayer fridge!!! #winning
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Debra Kisgen · 551 weeks ago

Mandy I will be lifting you & your baby efforts & your family up in prayer non-stop. Please keep us posted in your specific prayer requests. All God's blessings 🙏
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Thank you so much, Debra!
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Linda Crane · 551 weeks ago

Praying all your hopes and wishes are granted in and by Him. I am so grateful for the IVF process that gave our family our precious Caroline. Your sharing what you went through and what Ron went through was encouraging to Jamie and Kristen and to this grandmother. All the best to your sweet family.

Linda
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Thanks, Linda!
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Gloria Feinstein · 551 weeks ago

I will be praying daily and often . Someone I love very much has been through the loss and much like you . God Bless You and praying for success . Much Love,
Gloria (Feinstein) your friend
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Thank you, Gloria!
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Traci Johnson · 551 weeks ago

You will definitely be in my prayers! Ronnie and Mandi - you both give so much of yourselves to the CF community. All that you share, all that you do and all that you are is truly amazing. Thanks for being real and truthful in all that you do. I will be lifting you all up in prayer and talking to a couple angels to see if they can help along the way. Love you both!
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That is too sweet Traci! We appreciate all of your kind words and let the angels know that I miss them :)
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Jeanne Stapleton · 551 weeks ago

Praying for all of God's love, joy, peace and hope to surround you as you travel on this journey together. We serve a mighty God who wants us to trust Him in all things, I will pray for His blessings to be upon you both. I have followed your blogs for about 5 and a half years, shortly before we lost our son Lonnie to cf ( 9/13/69-12/02/2009). Lonnie left us with an awesome grandson who is 24. We helped Lonnie raise Brandon, who is a Texas A&M graduate in Ocean Engineering. I feel that you and Ronnie represent the best of of trusting in the Lord for all things in your lives. I will pray for you as my own. Love you 3 !!!
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Thank you Jeanne. We have no choice but to trust the Lord in all!
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Laney Crowder · 551 weeks ago

Praying, praying, praying for you guys!
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Thank you Laney! How's the family?
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Kellie Davenport · 551 weeks ago

Faithfully praying for you guys in expectation!!!! <3 So exciting!!!!
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Your prayers are always appreciated Kellie. Would love to see you guys again real soon!

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