Saturday, January 23, 2010
Can CF Teens and Parents Find Common Ground??
I have spoken with a few teenagers who claim that their parents are too overwhelming of a presence in their lives. While this is common place among most teenagers across the globe, what happens when you add Cystic Fibrosis to the equation? Teens feel trapped by their parents because they don't feel like they are allowed to make their own choices about their lives and learn from their mistakes. Most parents I have talked to say the reason that they are so concerned for their children is because they don't see their children doing the best they can with their healthcare and daily routines that would improve their lives. Some have seen other people's children pass away from CF and fear the possibility that this might happen to their child. So they refocus their energy toward making sure their child thrives. The parents feel (rightfully so in some respects) that they have given their blood, sweat, and tears to their children and that CF lives are too precious to learn from mistakes because the results are far too costly. CFer's and Parents....let's honestly discuss...where can we meet in the middle? How can teens understand their parents point of view and earn their trust? How can parents learn to start letting go and trusting their children? Positivity and respectful responses are a must! This is thin ice territory, but it must be traveled on...
Parents, what do you think? What is your responsibility to your child and at want point does that responsibility shift? Teens, when can you begin to shoulder some of the burden for your "cystic life"? What's the best way for your parents to handle this transition?
If you'd like to view the answers over on CysticLife please click here.
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Can CF Teens and Parents Find Common Ground??
2010-01-23T01:00:00-07:00
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@debwilliams · 792 weeks ago
Bryan · 792 weeks ago
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RunSickboyRun 96p · 792 weeks ago
If you haven't already, make sure you sign up on CysticLife.org and check out the responses by teens and parents. Very informative.
CFMama · 792 weeks ago
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Shannon · 790 weeks ago
My advice would be to give enough breathing room to feel an adult, and expect them to follow accordingly. Just like all good teachers, the more you expect and demand the harder your teen will work. It is extremely important to start lessening "the grip" before your teen heads off to college. In this inbetween time you can still be Mom and keep a watchful eye and they can begin to prepare themselves for adulthood with CF.
(Ronnie, I haven't commented before, but I want to thank you for such an uplifting and wonderful blog. GO TEAM!)