Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Baby Your Baby

We had a class last night called "Baby Your Baby" and it was all about what to expect for the first couple of months after bringing the baby home. The class was taught by a woman with many years of OB experience who now does community education full-time. There were 4 other couple in attendance for the 3 hour class and one of the couples was actually in our birthing class as well. The teacher had all of the standard props there including a fake baby, diapers, swaddling blanket, etc. It was a good opportunity to freshen up on some stuff that we may have forgotten after a long lay-off of taking care of youngsters - me with my little brothers and Mandi as a babysitter.

Like Mandi has said from the beginning, "Whenever it was someone else's baby, I never worried too much about doing things 'just right' cause I knew at the end of the day, the mom would clean up my mistakes. Well, now we'll only have each other to clean up the mistakes, so it's a lot different". I actually shared that sentiment with the entire class and they all seemed to have a good laugh at it and I saw a few nodding heads.

I can't even recall what was covered first in the class, but I do have a few points that were made that are sticking with me:
- Don't allow your infant to sleep with stuffed animals, bumpers or blankets in the crib
- Don't under any circumstance leave them alone around any amount of water
- When babies have outstretched arms and are moving around quite a bit, that usually means they're done playing and are overstimulated
- Don't let your newborn sleep for over 4 hours at a time
- When they are infants, there is no such thing as spoiling them with attention

So those were the things that kind of stood out to me during the course of the class. I'm sure there would be others if I really racked my brain a bit, but at this late hour, that's all that I've got. My question is this however, are there any things that you may have never known or just kind of missed prior to taking your baby home that you wish you would have known sooner or just paid better attention to? Anything that caught you completely off guard? Any and all tips, insights, etc are always welcome around here!

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One thing that is KEY -- take a receiving blanket with you and lay the baby in it shortly (they probably won't let you use it for the the first blanket she touches but ASK anyways) so that the baby's scent can get on the blanket and put it in a baggy to take home to your dog to get accustomed to her scent, it helps with bonding when she gets home.
1 reply · active 704 weeks ago
How fun that it is so close to the day you get to meet your little lady!!! Ok so I have to clarify I really try hard to never give unsolicited advice but since you asked :) There are probably three things that have made our lives so much easier and may or may not work for you guys but I know for us they were life changing! The first is reading a book called Baby Wise and doing scheduling that made for two easy infants and great sleepers, I also highly recommend a sound machine or fan for background noise. With both of our boys (and they still have them) we turn on their sound machines on rain or white noise basically to make loud noise so the rest of the house doesnt have to be quiet when they are sleeping. (again something that has worked for us not necessarily everyone) the last one is pretty much NEVER letting our kiddos sleep in our bed. This one can be hard but honestly so worth it for our marriage! (again others may argue this one and like I said this is what has worked for us and I share these because they seem to have worked well for our boys as well. Hope those are helpful (suggestions) like I said I don't usually push my opinions but I definitely feel strongly about these and I know I appreciated those who had kids before to let us know what worked for them. so there ya have it use them or not. SO EXCITED TO SEE PICTURES OF YOUR LITTLE LOVE!!!!
5 replies · active 703 weeks ago
Why can't you let them sleep for over 4 hours? I'm pretty sure when I was a baby, my mom just let me sleep until I woke up on my own. I'm curious as to their reasoning behind this. Other than that, not having my own baby, I can't offer any advice - sorry!
4 replies · active 704 weeks ago
The one thing that caught us off guard was the car seat. We brought the car seat into the NICU to pick up our daughter and for some reason the nurses didn't know how to tighten the straps on it. Neither my husband nor I had bothered to test it out.. But each car seat is different and has different latches and strap tightening methods. So definitely read the manual and practice with a stuffed bear in the car seat. My husband had to run out to the car and get the manual so we could figure out how to strap the baby in! By the second or third trip out of the house with your newborn, you'll wonder why it seemed complicated at first because it will be second nature by then.
1 reply · active 704 weeks ago
Congrats on getting close! I have a CF'er Anderson who is 17 months old and am having another little one in March. Babies will wake up when they are hungry I would dare not wake up a baby lol you need that time!! I am of course checking on them every little bit but I would not wake them if all seems fine. As a nursing mom I often fell asleep with Anderson in the bed with us feeding, but would get up and move him to his bed which was right beside me. It is whatever works for you. Anderson sleeps in his own crib at night now we made the switch when he started sleeping through the night. I always covered him up from the waist down at night with a blanket. They say do not let them sleep on there stomach but Anderson was an awful sleeper at first and I put him on his stomach one night once he could move his head from side to side and bam sleept all night so from then on it was stomach to sleep lol! I think you will just find what works for you as you go along. I agree with the statement above about a small white noise maker! I still use one it helps drown out the other noise around. Something else that I could not live without was my Moby Wrap!! Good luck :)
3 replies · active 704 weeks ago
Those are some good points! I think you and Mandi will do great. Parenting just kind of "comes to you" when you need it. Something that was recommended to me and i'm not sure it does anything but it cant hurt is: after the baby is born, while Mandi and Peanut are still in the hospital, take home one of the outfits you had peanut in and let Jezebel smell it. It introduces dog to baby before you ever get her home. Supposedly it makes it easier for the dog.
Aside from that Ronnie, people will all tell you what worked for them and none of it will be wrong. But only you and mandi will be able to decide what works best for you and your family. And i think you both have enough common sense to make it work just fine :) Lots of blessings and luck to your soon to be family of 3!
2 replies · active 704 weeks ago
I have lots of little ones so I thought I'd just add a little input here.

1) Trust your instincts. No book can tell you exactly how your baby will be and nothing beats your instincts.
2) So many people will tell you what not to do and what to do (co-sleeping, bottles, pacifiers) but they are only little once and they will grow quickly. I co-slept for the first 6 months- 1 year with all kids and none of them sleep with us now. I've always said that for the first 6 months our babies are the center of our lives then we acclimate them to our family life.

Good luck, it's getting so close.
3) Let your baby sleep as long as they like unless they are having problems with breastfeeding or gaining weight. Premature babies need to be woken every 4 hours but full term babies wake when they get hungry.
1 reply · active 704 weeks ago
Trust your instincts! Both my girls were premature and were weighing in around 4 1/2 pounds when I brought them home. My oldest, now 13, I woke every 3 hours to feed but finally realized that she was doing fine and it wasn't something that HAD to be done. My youngest, now 6, I fed when she woke. She never had any issues with weight gain even though she would sleep for around 6 hours at a time. Everyone has their own way of doing things. What works for one may not work for another. Your parenting skills will kick in and you will be fine:)
1 reply · active 704 weeks ago

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