Any of that sound familiar? I really hope it doesn't, but I have a feeling that some of you have heard all of those things a time or two. I know I did growing up, and the sad part is, I actually let myself believe some of it. I fell for the part of CF getting worse year after year hook, line and sinker. I was reserved to the fact that I would lose a little bit (or a lot bit) of lung function each year and there wasn't much I could do about it.
I mean, that's what my friends with CF said. That's what I read on the Internet. That's what I heard some CF docs say. It must be true then right?
Wrong. It's wrong for so many different reasons that I don't have the time to list them in this blog, but I'll tell you the biggest reason that it's wrong...
I got caught up in thinking about all of the things that CF could do and lost focus on what I was doing.
That becomes the problem. When we are so concerned with what could happen with our health that we let it distract us from actually doing something about our health now, we have an issue. I totally get it as much of society is stricken with the "it-must-be-somebody-else's-fault" bug.
If we don't feel well, it has to be because of CF. If we're having a bad day, it must be because of CF. If we're mean to our friends, it must be because of CF. If we flunk a test, it must be because of CF. If our lung function declines, it must be because of CF. And on and on and on we go, blaming anyone and in this case, anything else, before we're willing to look in the mirror and realize that we're the problem.
It took me 8 years of declining lung function and 52 days in the hospital to realize that. It took me not being selfish for the first time in my life and actually putting a special girl's needs in front of my own by actually taking care of myself the way that I should. It got cemented when I brought another special girl into this world and made a promise to her that I would always work my booty off.
What's it going to take for you to change?
And I know, I know, there are people out there who will say, "I never miss treatments and I always exercise, but my lung function continues to get worse." Yes, that can be the case (I used to exercise and do my treatments too while seeing my lung function decline - I just wasn't doing as much as I obviously needed to). It however is the case that you're lung function will decline if you don't do your treatments and you don't exercise. . It is also that case that some people wait for far too long before they finally decide to "never miss treatments and always exercise". To be honest, I was almost to that point 4 years ago, but by the grace of God was able to fight back.
So what brought this blog on? I had my 1 month post-hospital clinic visit yesterday and for the first time in 12 years, I had a FVC of 92%. My FEV1 was 75% which is still up from my "baseline" of 50% in 2009 that they said I'd probably stay at. They were wrong.
I know you can do it, now you just have to believe that you can and will do it!!
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Beth Peters · 614 weeks ago
I just can't stand by while you blame patients and families with far my complicated lives than your narrow view allows for. It's just not okay, and it's irresponsible.
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Tiffany · 614 weeks ago
I think we all know that there are people who die from CF and never have the opportunity to put any of these other things into practice. We know about the children who die. We all know this already.
He is speaking to those of us who try to skate by on the bare minimum of treatments and compliance and wonder why we never get better. We chalk it up to CF progression rather than just call it what it is most of the time: LAZINESS.
Tiffany · 614 weeks ago
But if you had to assess your situation honestly, are you giving 110%? I know I wasn't. I didn't start until a few years ago when I thought I was going to die soon. I am now big into fitness and do more treatments a day than are prescribed to me. I make time. I've seen a 20% increase in lung function since starting all of this, and although I still get sick 1-3 times a year, I have a wonderful quality of life. We never know how big of an impact we can have on ourselves until we try.
Stop blaming this blog and look a little deeper into yourself. We all know dang well where Ronnie was going with this so stop the attacks just because it isn't enjoyable for you to read.
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Tiffany · 614 weeks ago
Also, I do not spend every waking moment taking care of CF. If you knew me, you'd know that I'm so opposite of that, but I do prioritize it. I busted my ass in college so that I could be an independent woman, and I am living my dream right now. I enjoy my life more than most people I know. But I use my time wisely and I don't make excuses. Sure, I cut things short every now and again. I'm not perfect, but I sure do strive to know that I'm doing everything I can, which no, doesn't mean that the disease won't progress anyway.
I also struggle with inflammation which seems to be my biggest issue these days, and I know there isn't much you can do about that. Bummer. I hate being on Prednisone daily.... ugh.
John · 614 weeks ago
I like this post. I didn't see this coming across as attacking us a CFer at all. I read it that the "I" was referring to you Ronnie. Everyone needs a way to kick ourselves in the pants. I am glad that you and I both have a great support system in our spouse and our daughter's. If we feel we are not seeing numbers we think we should it is time to reasses the situation. That is what I got from this. Continue to keep up this great blog that so many of us benefit from. Keep rocking fibro!!!
I don't know if you read this post but I think you might like it. That I did about CF responsibility.
http://livingmydreamswithcf.blogspot.com/2013/03/...
Traci Johnson · 614 weeks ago
Way to go Ronnie! You always inspire.
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Heather · 614 weeks ago
Thanks Ronnie for the post. It made me recommit to doing my very best. I'll never regret doing everything I can to beat CF. I will regret not, doing everything though.
Jeremy · 614 weeks ago
So for me, reading this post was just what I needed! God always knows when I need some inspiration and motivation. This time, as many other times past, it came from your blog! Thanks Ronnie!
Beth Peters · 614 weeks ago
Beth Peters · 614 weeks ago
And I've never attacked him personally, I have addressed the very public words that he writes.
Someday when you are sick I"ll make sure to send you this post so you can remember that in Ronnie's world, if you're sick you're a ) lazy and b) a bad Christian.
And this is the man you look up to? Try getting a real religion or a real relationship with God. Ronnie isn't the gateway to any of that.
Jessi · 614 weeks ago
But wait...I do all the things you talked about. So, how is this my fault exactly?
Kari · 614 weeks ago
I've thought about this, rolled it around in mind, swished it between my teeth and here's what I got. This journey with CF is as different for each person as the disease it's self is. Ronnie writes from HIS perspective. I personally don't always see eye-to-eye with what he writes or believes. But a good portion of it I do. It's for that reason I continue to read and participate. I, too, write a blog and Ronnie has commented a slightly opposing opinion on a blog post. I say this to show that one can read/participate without agreeing on every ounce written.
Just like many of you, there are parts of this post that make me a bit uneasy, but there are also parts of it that have me shaking my head in agreement with....for me...... from my perspective. I will not berate Ronnie because he is not wrong, nor is he right. This is HIS truth, HIS experience. Who am I to judge that. I'm not walking in his shoes.
I'm gonna take a leap here..... but I assume he puts his journey into words so that IF someone could benefit from something he's done then it's one more person than had he kept quiet. I truly believe he writes with sincerity and not from a throne to place judgement on anyone.
Ronnie, as your fellow Cyster and friend have heart. You've inspired many from making simple changes to drastic in order to life a full life. While I don't always agree with everything I do believe its from a good place. This blog is yours and yours alone to do with and write as you see fit. I'm just grateful we live in an era of blogging/FB/Social Media so we can share our differences. That's part of the beauty of knowing so many different people with CF, you begin to understand that their journey's are all different.
It's finding the common ground within the differences that connect us!
Beth Peters · 614 weeks ago
When you cite a source (you should have learned this in 5th grade), you should put the quoted text in quotation marks, then list the author, title and page numbers of the text. If you choose to paraphrase, that section of text goes in [] brackets. For example, Shakespeare wrote, "To be or not to be, that is the question," (Shakespeare. HAMLET. Act III Scene I line 64). Shakespeare might have meant, "To [live] or not to [live]," but that is highly debatable.
When you quote an internet source, the proper format is (Cite, Available Date) as in (RunSickBoyRun.Blogspot.com Available 6/26/2013).
When you quote the Bible, the Book and line numbers are usually used, just like in Shakespeare.
When you put a bunch of crap in quotes, that is called plagiarism. :)
Traci Johnson · 614 weeks ago
I personally find it offensive that you're saying, "Someday when you are sick, I'll make sure to send you this post so you can remember that in Ronnie's world, if you're sick you're a ) lazy and b) a bad Christian.
And this is the man you look up to? Try getting a real religion or a real relationship with God. Ronnie isn't the gateway to any of that."
I know Ronnie personally and your above statement is absolutely meaningless.
I'm not continuing this conversation with you because I don't live my life in anger and blame. You win.
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