Monday, October 24, 2011

Mckenna's Birth Story

Welp...I'm back. Sorry I haven't contributed to any posts this last week. I'd love to say it's because I'm so exhausted and resting. But it's actually that I refuse to take Mckenna out of my arms long enough to type a blog :) I think we're getting far enough out that if I don't type our birth story now, I'll forget parts. So here it goes...

On Saturday night (the night leading into my birthday) I woke up to a slight "trickle" feeling at 3:30AM. I laid there for a second analyzing the trickle. "Could it be my water?!" I didn't want to move before checking out what it was so I decided to wake Ronnie. "Uhhh Ronnie," I said, shaking his shoulder. "Ronnie, I think my water maybe broke?!" He woke up, confused, and humored me by getting out of bed and looking at the wet spot I was talking about. "Yeah it's wet" he said with a "glad we confirmed it was fluid of some sort but we really know nothing else" look. I jumped up with excitement and we began waiting. Waiting for more fluid to leak. Waiting for contractions to start. Waiting... When we concluded that it was my water leaking, based on the fact that it wouldn't let up, we called the midwife to let her know that my water broke and get instructions. She told us to hang out around the house until my contractions got unbearable or until 12PM, whatever came first.

That's when the real excitement hit me. Today was the day!! I knew I should go back to bed because it would be a long day, but seriously, who could go to bed?! So we got up and started killing time. We went to Walmart to get last minute baby things. We went to Dunkin Donuts for breakfast. We tidied up the house. We went for a long walk. Josh and Chrissy even came over to help us hurry up and wait. The morning felt like an eternity. We tried to keep busy, but time crawled. All the while, I was just waiting to feel my first contraction. But nothing. I had some cramping, but nothing that doubled me over in pain like I was told I should when having real contractions.






12PM came and we headed to the hospital. When we got there, they checked to confirm that I was, in fact, leaking fluid and they began to monitor my contractions. They were few and far between...we had work to do. That's when the midwife told me to get some lunch downstairs and get moving. We ate and made our first lap around the hospital (the first of what feels like hundreds). The afternoon was filled with bouncing on a birthing ball, walking, and intermittent monitoring of contractions. I'll tell you what it wasn't filled with...contractions. Still I had cramping, but nothing painful.










As of 9:30PM I was having some more painful contractions, but nothing intolerable, and my contractions were still 4-5 minutes a part. They decided to check me for the first time to see what kind of progress we were making. I prayed that I would be super dilated and just one of those lucky ladies that didn't feel contractions, but the midwife checked me and I was only 3 cm dilated, 90% effaced and the baby's head was at a -1 station. The midwife suggested that we apply a gel to my cervix to help speed things along a bit, since they really like to see you have your baby within 24 hours of your water breaking. So they applied the gel, and it was back to work. We went back to walking around the hospital, climbing stairs, doing jumpin' jacks.








This is when my contractions really started to pick up. I was excited. As I said to Ronnie, "Pain is progress." So I knew if it was getting painful, I'd be getting closer to meeting my sweet baby girl. I could manage my contractions best if I was up walking in between them, and then hunched over leaning on something with Ronnie rubbing my back during each contraction. It was not comfortable, and I had to focus on just getting through each contraction, but truthfully, they weren't horrible. Then from 11:30-12:25ish it's a bit of a blur. We were walking some and I was being monitored for 20 minutes of every hour. While in the room Ronnie got our fake candles "lit" and put on music. I must have been in the zone because I don't really remember this span of time much.

And at 12:25AM I was awakened from my daze while in bed being monitored. I had a strong contraction and felt something I had not felt before. This intense urge to bear down. My whole body was throwing itself down into my pelvis. "Ronnie call the nurse, I feel like I have to bear down. I know it's dumb, it's too soon, but I need to bear down." I said through the waves of my body taking over. The midwife came in and checked me. I was 8cm dilated, 100% effaced, and the baby was VERY low she said. "I need to bear down." I told her. "You have to wait, we don't want you bearing down at 8cm, so you'll need to breath through the urge. In the meantime, I'll go get the nursery team to start setting up." The next contraction my whole body was thrusting itself into my pelvis and the "breath through" direction was simply not going to happen. It would be like someone telling you to stop sneezing, mid-sneeze. It was simply impossible. Panicked that I was going to hurt myself or Peanut, I looked at Ronnie mid-contraction with sheer terror on my face and told him they needed to be in there now, I wouldn't be able to breath through. The nurse rushed in while I was still in the midst of the contraction and checked me again. I was 10 cm dilated, 100% and the baby's head was so low that she could practically fall out (or so I thought...HA!)

That's when the midwife rushed in, the nursery team was set up and we were ready to rock (all within 3 minutes). The midwife gave me the green light to go ahead and let my body do what it felt like it wanted to do. So with the next contraction, I tried not to fight it. I let my body do whatever it felt like it needed to do. It sure is incredible how God created us. My body totally took over. I simply had to let my mind not fight my body to stop doing what it was doing. Ronnie was a rockstar during the pushing. He was so supportive and SO excited. I fed off of his enthusiasm. "You're doing great." "That one really changed things." "You're making really great progress when you do that." He would say over and over.

5-6 contractions, 15 minutes, a few pushes and 2 shrieks later (thanks to the head and the shoulders), Mckenna Day Sharpe was born. I cannot tell you what it felt like the first time I heard her cry, saw her face, and felt her skin on my skin. She was perfect. She was here. She was MINE!! Ronnie and I couldn't take our eyes off of her. We were holding each other and her about as tight as we could. Finally, after 9 months, we went from a family of 2 to a family of 3.

So there you have it. That is how our little love made her entrance into this world. It's only been a week, but we are already so in love. I can't imagine life without her in it now. We love you sweet baby girl!!

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Tears :) So happy for you guys, having her is truly a miracle, as are all babies!
Oh man, I remember that "breathe through the 'need to bear down' instruction". I was yelling at them that it was not possible. My body was not allowing me to stop pushing. Incredible indeed that God creates a woman's body to carry and deliver a child! McKenna is absolutely the luckiest girl in the world to have you and Ronnie for parents! Enjoy this time! it flies by!
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing this! I'd never heard about women having to "breathe through the 'need to bear down'" but it sounds INCREDIBLY difficult! I'm so glad that labor was relatively easy for you and that McKenna was born quickly after you started pushing! :) She's beautiful and congratulations to you both yet again :)
What a great story! It brought tears to my eyes because I remember feeling all of those feelings. It's WONDERFUL! Congrats again to both of you!
Thanks for sharing your story, Mandi. You & Ronnie are such gracious, inspiring people. McKenna Day is one lucky little Peanut. You handled labor with such dignity & grace (you were a ROCK STAR; & Ronnie you hit it out of the park yourself) ; your almost full term pregnancy paid off with a beautiful little one to love on forever. I wish I could be blessed with a child; but I guess it's not in the cards for me! Someday, I will be okay with that, but I know that I will always have that ache and emptiness in my heart.! Although, there are many methods in which one can become a mother, I just think the serious nature of my multiple, menagerie, of chronic and painful health concerns would not make it ideal to bring/raise a child into the world (and I am already AMA). Also, the genetic disease I have carries a 50/50 chance of passing it down to a child. My Mom has it and both my brother and I do as well. To end on a happy note, your Peanut is adorable and I can understand how you don't want to put her down. I truly believe that a baby can never be held, loved on, or spoiled too much!
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Katherine Duffey · 701 weeks ago

Deff tears here,not only joy for you two,but because I truly can not wait to meet our little one in about 20 weeks! Congratulations to you both,and Mandi,you really look awesome,we all wish we could be al blessed<3
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Katie Hunt · 701 weeks ago

I smiled through the whole story. Thank you for sharing. Congratulations are your beautiful baby girl!
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Lesley Bonney · 701 weeks ago

Thank you Mandi & Ronnie for sharing such a beautiful part of your life with us all....the birth of your little peanut Mckenna, Congratulations once again we are all so happy for you all <3 xx
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Traci Johnson · 701 weeks ago

This is so wonderfully written Mandi! I'm ecstatically happy for you, Ronnie and beautiful baby Mckenna! A perfect family indeed. XOXOXO
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jody klarkowski · 701 weeks ago

Oh Mandi! That totally choked me up reading this. The day your baby is born is uncomparable to anything else. The awe you feel and instant love... There is no greater high than that! BTW, you look amazing.... who would ever guess you just had a baby a week ago! Good for you, I am however a bit jealous:)
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I definately have tears in my eyes. Your blog is by far the most inspiring, entertaining & uplifting thing I read each day. I'm just sooo happy for you both. Mckenna is a beauty & such a blessing. Congratulations!!!!
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Caroline Benton · 701 weeks ago

I'd love to hear the story of her name... Does "Day" have a family or personal meaning?
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Day is actually my middle name. Ronnie Day Sharpe Jr. I'll have to write a blog about how my dad got that name though!!
Wow, such an incredible story and what a strong woman you are Mandi. Although I have never met you guys, I am so excited for you and your new little baby girl. Glad to hear everything went well and mama and baby are healthy. I so much enjoy reading updates and seeing pictures of her, what a cutie!! Hope you all continue to feel well and grow together as a family. Much love!

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