Wednesday, January 4, 2012

First Day as Mr. Mom

The time has come.

Mandi has returned to work and now it's time for me to change into my "mommy pants". Thus far, Mandi has been doing the bulk of the entertaining while Peanut is awake so I could continue working during these past 10 weeks or so. Thankfully, everything slows down around the holidays, so I was still able to get in plenty of family time. But now the holidays are over and things are going to start moving again. This year will definitely be the year of balance and adjustment!

Mandi's employers have allowed her to come back at part-time for the beginning of the year which I'm sure is going to be a big help. It will give me an opportunity to see how the "flow" of the day is going to go before I'm on the boat all alone and Mandi is standing on the shore. No, it's not going to be that bad since she works from home, but I will be responsible for making sure she's actually able to get her work done. I'm actually looking forward to coming up with unique ways to entertain Mckenna throughout the day if anyone wants to throw something out there. And in case your wondering, not unique for her sake, but for mine :) If I have to watch her play on her little mat or read her books for 8 hours a day, then someone is going to get hurt - and since hurting myself, Mandi or Mckenna is not an option, it will probably be a random stranger and we all know that nothing good can turn out of that.

I am however really looking forward to this time I get to spend with Mckenna. Since we know that Mandi has to work and someone has to watch the baby, I don't feel so guilty when I'm away from my computer. It's still not easy, but it definitely makes it easier. A lot of this is going to come down to me shifting my schedule a bit and re-prioritizing what the most important things to get done every day will be. I may have to look into getting to the gym at a different time. Or maybe eliminating a show or two from my normal line-up. Or maybe, just maybe, I'll have to get up an hour earlier than I normally do (GASP).

The bottom line is: Things are a-changin'; it will be up to me how much they change.


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The early months of having a baby are definitely a little tougher as far as entertaining them, because they are so limited. I remember thinking the same things when my babies were small - what am I supposed to do with them all day? They can only go under their play things, swing in the baby swing, and lay on the floor so long. But you know - as they get bigger and start getting more independent, it gets easier to entertain them. Right now it's all about having her see your face and your interactions with her. Read her books, have her feel new textures, take her for walks outside, and just keep up with a variety of activities. And you'll figure out your flow and be able to balance work and family time; it just takes a little adjustment period. Good luck! -Leah 30 wCF
1 reply · active 691 weeks ago
Can't wait for the days that we can converse :)
Good luck!! I hope the adjustment is an easy one for you.
it can get tough to keep you both entertained. I remember thinking, "how many times a day can I do the same routine that makes her laugh before I lose my mind?" PS - I felt the same way after playing the same scenario of "Little People" all day long when Maggie was about 1 1/2! Do everything Leah said! And let her watch you do mundane tasks like the laundry or the dishes while you narrate all of your actions to her. She is soaking it all in and building those language skills that will someday be used against you! :)
1 reply · active 691 weeks ago
Well today we looked around Best Buy at all of the cool gadgets...now I just have to leave the credit card at home :)
At this age, do what you want to do and she'll be entertained watching the scenery. It's when she gets a little older (crawling/walking) that you have to cater to her. So have fun while she's not mobile!! Trust me, you're going to lose so much more "me time" or "work time" once she starts moving, so enjoy the freedom you have now.
1 reply · active 691 weeks ago
That's a good point :)
It's the simple things that will entertain her most. Once she's sitting up and reaching, stick her in the kitchen right next to the tupperware cabinet. Good times there, Daddy. Good times! Joe stayed at home with the first two and the tupperware saved him/them every time. A word of caution however...especially once Mandi is all the way back at work and the schedule is 100% yours. Never. AND I MEAN NEVER (flashing lights, bold, underscore a billion times...get the picture?) put her down for naptime in just a diaper. EVER. Must. Secure. Fecal. Secretions. From. Texture. Hungry. Fingers. Trust me on this one. Just trust me.
2 replies · active 690 weeks ago
Duly noted...sounds like a real crappy situation to be in!! Too soon?
OMG...I just literally laugh out loud at this one!! And my husband AWAYS replys with..."too soon!"
Our son has been with us for 3.5 weeks. This week, we finally have gotten sometime to get into our 'play routine.' (Even 3 days in!) Yes, we do the typical 'stuff' read books and tummy time...He isn't a huge fan of his play mat yet-it must be the BIG sunshine light up thing at the top of it LOL. We sing-ok I sing and he listens. My husband and I are huge Disney fans-so when certain songs come on from different movies, we (I) tell him about the movie and the history of the movie. We dance together. During tummy time we make movies and send them to Daddy while he is at work. During this time we are both on our tummy's, face to face and even at 3.5 weeks I pull out some toys-the best so far is the snail with a mirror on it and work on listening to different sounds. We (I) talk about colors of the toys, sing the music the toys make, and talk about the sounds that he hears. We (I) also talk about the toys and why we chose them-For example Mortimer Moose (From the Lamaze line) "Was the first toy that Daddy saw for you and knew that you had to have it b/c he has bumpy purple antlers and crinkly feet."
To begin sensory integration, I have small toys like bumpy rattles that I attempt to get him to hold onto-much like if he was going to grab my finger...when he opens his hand to grasp something I place the rattle in his hand so that he can feel the texture.
These things, on top of diaper changes, naps (for both him and me), laundry, remembering to eat (for mommy), feeding our little man and making bottles--makes for a FULL day for us!
Hope this helps!
2 replies · active 691 weeks ago
Thanks for the tips Jaime! We like dancing around here as well. Mckenna didn't get into her play mat until she was about 7 weeks old or so.
No problem!
Do you mind me asking what Mandi does for work that she is able to work from home all the time??
1 reply · active 690 weeks ago
She has a remote position with the University of Arizona :)

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