Monday, February 27, 2012

Eyes Open: A REAL Eternal Optimist

Ronnie and I are doing an bible study, Experiencing God, with a small group. It's pretty cool. Our church is doing a Sunday sermon series that ties in, and then all small groups (and even some new ones) are doing the workbook that goes along with it. Way cool: over 1600 people bought workbooks and over 600 bought devotionals...just an aside.

So in our small group this week, the conversation turned to challenges. Ronnie said, "You know, I always question how close I am to God because there are so many examples where God gave challenges to strong men in the bible. And pastors say, if you haven't been given challenges or hardship in your life, you maybe aren't being used by God because He often gives challenges to build character before He uses you. And I think, well shoot, why have I not been given challenges?"

...um what?!

I couldn't help but laugh a bit, and then replied, "umm I think probably CF is your thing?!" (that and having to live life with his face..HAHA I KID). Everyone in the group chimed in with, "yeah, I think probably so" comments. And then I started thinking. Man, when Ronnie says he thinks CF is a blessing, he REALLY thinks CF is a blessing. It doesn't even cross his mind that CF would be considered by most to be a challenge or hardship.

This realization stopped me in my tracks. I'm thankful for CF. I thankful for the man it made Ronnie. I'm thankful for the perspective it brings to our lives. I'm thankful for all the people I've met as a result. But I can tell you if you asked me about the biggest challenge in our lives, CF would be the first to pop into my head. And as I digested the statement and my own thoughts surrounding the topic, I began to feel a little twinge of envy. I know that sounds silly, but it's true. What must it feel like to be SO positive about anything and everything in your life that even with something like CF, you don't think you have challenges?

I am not wired like Ronnie. I am a worrier. I often jump to worst case scenarios. I find it easier to initially see the negative than the positive. I'm certainly not a negative Nancy, and try to be positive and an optimist, but it certainly doesn't come as naturally as it does for Ronnie. I hope the longer I know Ronnie, the more he'll rub off on me. What a blessing to have that perspective. So this week, I'm going to work on my perspective. I'm putting on my rose colored glasses and will try to never take them off. Ha!

PS - If you talk to Ronnie, don't mention this post, as I'm hoping he doesn't see it...I don't want to stroke his ego ;-)

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Ok, this post gave me my morning laugh that I needed and a kick in the pants to get up and get moving. Seems like Ronnie had the complete OPPOSITE weekend of me. I spent it angry over my son's CF diagnosis (it's been almost a year now you think I would be over this). I am definitely not wired like Ronnie, often reading this blog to find ways to be half as positive as he is...if I could do that I could make my family's life a lot better because I'm screwing everyone else up with negative stuff. Thanks Ronnie and Mandi, as always for your wonderful perspective!
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Unfortunately I have no clue HOW to get his eternal optimism, otherwise I would have offered advice (and already be there myself). But I do know I can choose to work on it and choose to change my thoughts and emotions, so that's where I'm starting. Hope you have a great week. And don't worry if you're still struggling with your son's diagnosis, there will be good days and bad, the key is to make a majority good!!
Oh, Mandi, I am a happily married heterosexual woman, but think I'm a little jealous of Ronnie for having you in his life! It's no wonder he's so optimistic! Anyway, I think you guys are positively great influences on our community and truly appreciate what you guys do every day!!!! THANK YOU!
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HA! As I started reading your comment I was thinking, "hm, I wonder how this is going to relate." haha! You're too sweet.
I think part of worried may be a female/mom thing. I don't know many women that don't worry , it's just in different degrees.

I too have the same belief a Ronnie. I can't picture my life without CF. I think I have had a great life. Cf has given me the gift to live. i have done things the people are waiting until retirement. And I say this wear my O2 and waiting to receive a pager for Transplant. I often think I would not go for transplant if I did not have my son (Gods plan and my blessing).

To Cf Mom. It must be very hard I think it's harder for the family of a CFer than the CF person. when you are feeling the anger coming through ( and I know this sounds lame but these are things I am thankful for because I know they have saved my life. 1. that they found the gene so I was diagnosed 2. the meds iv and inhales that keep me healthy 3. the loved of family and friends, you really do find out who are true friends. sorry for the rant You can delete this Mandi apparently I am chatty Kathy this morning.
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Haha! I love it. Thanks for leaving a comment. I see CF as a blessing. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I am so thankful for CF because it has shaped Ronnie and our life, which I LOVE. It just totally blows my mind that there's even another level of positivity and acceptance where you not only see it as a blessing, but you don't even realize it would be considered by most to be a challenge.
Mandi, I think just like you and Jesse is just like Ronnie. In so many situations I tend to think of all the bad possibilities and Jesse just smiles while I get it out of my system. Not all CFers are so positive, but many of them just have that mind set engraved into them... that and stubbornness. I guess it's these qualities that keeps them healthy.
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Gotta love our hubbies and their positivity!!! :)
Mandi,
It's interesting to hear a spouse's perspective. My spouse Jon worries when I get sick and tries to stay positive but I can see the pain in his eyes to watch me get procedures and iv's. He doesn't vocalize it but I know. Being optimist is the way Ronnie and I have lived for so long. If you don't do everything to feel like a normal person you may just give up on yourself. I have known others with CF and the ones who didn't maintain a positive attitude are no longer with us. The ones that have well I still have them as friends. In fact, my good friend just had her first baby. Not to say that severity of the disease has a lot to do with it but a positive outlook does wonders. Also, having faith in God has helped me throughout my life. Glad to know you and Ronnie have faith. Take care of that little cute one of yours. I am sure Ronnie is as independent as me and needs no extra attention. enjoy each day and don't worry about tommorrow, no one is guaranteed a certain amount of time on this earth.
Ronnie, as always, I admire your optimism:) and I kind of agree. So cool that you are doing Experiencing God, our group just finished it and it was one of the best bible studies I have ever done. I realized that I often pray for God to show me His will for MY life instead of asking him to show me His will period. It really changed the way I talk with God and spend my time in prayer. So glad you are doing it too.
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It's been a great study thus far!!

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