Monday, May 10, 2010

12 Days and Counting...

I sit here racking my brain for a topic to post on, but unfortunately for you, all that comes to mind is WEDDING. I know it seems like that's all I've been posting about for the last 6 months. And welllllll, that's because it's all that's been on my mind for the last 6 months. So here you have it, all the latest and greatest in wedding news; with a little house mixed in.

We're 12 days out and boy, oh, boy am I excited. I couldn't help but think through ALL of Saturday by completing, "Two weeks from RIGHT now...." Everything from "Two weeks from right now we'll be getting ready," to "Two weeks from right now we'll be sitting eating the salad."

These last 12 days hold a lot of to-dos. We still have place cards to make, programs to print, favors to "construct", final dress fittings, arrangements to arrange, vows to write, and the list goes on. Every to-do I check off the list is with excitement, relief, and a little bit of sadness (as you only get to plan one wedding, so I'm trying to enjoy the last 2 weeks of the chaos). I have yet to turn into a total bridezilla (no comments mom or Ronnie), but my stress levels are starting to rise. I have begun to really feel the anxiousness from trying to mix my expectations of the day with everyone else's. It is beginning to get exhausting. With that said, I'm sure it's mainly pressure I have put on myself to create a day that is not only enjoyable for me and Ronnie, but our family and friends as well.

My mom has been a HUGE help. She's got an eye for detail and a brain that is wired for event planning. I'm pretty sure without her, I'd walk down the isle in a paper bag, carrying a single wilting hydrangea (did you know that without water they shrink/shrivel up within hours?? I didn't!) and eat pizza off of a paper plate. Ronnie has been incredible too. Making it to all of the major appointments, listening to me ramble for hours about details, and most of all, throwing his arm around me when I'm on the verge of a break down to remind me why I'm doing all of this in the first place. For those of you who follow the blog closely, you know that I'm the spaz, and Ronnie's always the one to put me at peace...he's remained that calming force throughout this whole process. AHHH, I just can't wait to make that Steady Eddy my hubby!

Changing gears - The house is coming along. In the 10 days since closing, we've managed to paint the kitchen, dining room, family room, master bedroom, study, living room, guest bedroom and all of the halls. Not to mention that we got some gardening done, all of our furniture moved in, other furniture bought, and the boxes unpacked. Needless to say, our house has really evolved into a home...minus the minor detail of a family living in it; that will change May 22.

So I'm sure you're reading this thinking, "oh my, I wish there was something I could do to help" (you were thinking that, right??)...well you're in luck. I have a request. Leave us some comments on how you made it through the last 2 weeks before your wedding. Were you stressed? Did you find a way to relax? Did you do anything that made the last few weeks FLY by? Do you have any last minute wedding pointers that will make our wedding the bombdigity? (Yes, I did just say bombdigity and yes that is the first word that came to mind). Clue us in!!! We'd love any pointers and words of wisdom you could pass along.

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Melissa Jones-Weston · 777 weeks ago

At your reception - let loose, and bring a change of clothes so you don't have to wear that HEAVY dress while you're supposed to be having fun. cause if you are having fun and cutting the rug, everyone will follow...
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That sounds like an awesome idea. But with as much as those dresses cost and the fact that I can only wear it once I'm going to wear it as long as possible!!!
Pack yourselves something to eat that night. You don't end up getting to eat much b/c you're socializing so much with everyone that by the time you get to your hotel, you're hungry but everything is closed!

As for the two weeks before I just kept making myself focus on what was most important - not all the minor details. The less details there are to worry about, the less stress there is. When the day finally comes, just move through it slowly and savor it. Looking back I would have made a few more decisions for me and not for what I thought everyone else wanted. But all in all, at the end of the day I got to crawl in bed with my husband and that was the best part!
2 replies · active 777 weeks ago
I'm not going to lie. The night of our wedding (this past September), when the wedding coordinator told us we had to go around to the tables I told her they had to wait 5 minutes so I could finish eating. I have CF and am very thankful of my appitite, but don't tell me to drop it and do something. I want my food when I want it. I'm like a caged animal... must feed every 3-4 hours lol.

Also while getting ready,and of course before our dresses were on, my bridesmaids and I ordered about 6 pizzas and ate about 2 hours before the wedding as well.

So yes, get a good "snack" or "meal" aka pizza in about 2 hours before hand. It will help!
I agree with Lindsay as I look back I could/should have done things a little different for me I am one to want to please everyone. There is only a few things I would redo
My mom ordered up a tray of shrimp cocktail and relish tray that we snacked on while getting ready (one for the bride and her maids and another for the groom and his posse). It was a good thing too because I had been so busy/nervous that I had forgotten to eat that whole day. I can't imagine having to have walked down the aisle with my stomach growling. But a word of caution...don't forget the breath mints ;-)
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Best thing I did was give my good friend who was serving as wedding coordinator my cell phone at the rehearsal dinner. She was already informed of all the important details and that way people were contacting her the day of with questions instead of me while I was getting ready both mentally & physically. I picked up my phone from her the morning after at brunch, it helped me to really relax! Don't worry, these will be some of the longest minutes but I bet in the end it will feel like the fastest month you've ever lived! It flies by in a blink. When you see something you're extra proud of or reallly really enjoying, close your eyes for a second & take a mental picture, it really works & that image will stay in your mind so you don't forget! Have a blast! I know you from a distance as a CF mom & just love hearing all of your stories!! God Bless!
Keep thinking about how wonderful it will be when all is said and done and you'll be in bed laying next to YOUR HUSBAND. The feeling of being able to call him that from then on forward is amazing.

Lindsay's advice of having something to eat is crucial. I didn't eat anything from my wedding buffet for fear of getting my dress dirty. Grab a protein bar and keep water handy. Have a special glass for your drink, because you'll misplace it a lot during the night. I must have gone through a dozen cups on my wedding day, I could never remember where I had left my drink while going from here to there socializing with everyone.

I'm sure we can all give a lot of advice on how not to stress, but in the end it's all of to you. It's your choice... so CHOOSE wisely on how you want to feel. You have the power to overcome all obstacles, you have the power to tell yourself to stop stressing. HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!
Take each task day by day! Don't try to do too much in one day! There aren't enough hours in the day! And get people to help you with them! And I agree with whoever said pack some food. Make sure you eat something before the wedding. I didn't eat until 9:30 or so and our wedding started at 5:00. Oh the place we got married at brought us water and tic tac every so often. If the place you are getting married at doesn't do that, have one of your bridesmaids or someone carry some tic tacs! You'll be talking all night and no one wants bad breath! =) I loved wearing my dress all night but if it is uncomfortable bring a change of clothes.
Mandi,

The last two weeks before our wedding went by slow but also had tons to do, but with two kids I was very stressed. Just remember to RELAX I know easier said then done. I stress over everything as I sit here typing this I can now laugh about it all. Bring a change of clothes so you don't have to wear your dress all night if you don't want too. I wore mine all night. Like everyone else said eat something that day before the wedding. Remember that you and Ronnie need time to your self during the next two weeks. I stayed at my parents the night before and left the kids with the hubby and I think that added extra stress even though I had family getting them ready. I am big on being early and hubby is more on time or a little late. All in all just have FUN and ENJOY
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Lisa Dwyer · 777 weeks ago

Try to do get as much of it done now...print the programs, do your "gifts", etc..then have the day before the rehersal day to devote to just the 2 of you. also agree with everyone else about having fun at your wedding!! I love to danceand wanted to do tons of it...so say hello to everyone after the ceremony and before dinner and then have fun...if ppl want to talk to you they come find you, even if it's while dancing. and yes...you won't get a chance to eat much or really feel like eating much for that matter....but when it's all said and done, you will be starving and you won't have any food...so plan ahead and make sure you have a bag of snacks packed for your room when you are taking off that heavy dress.
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Lisa Dwyer · 777 weeks ago

The honeymoon is the best part......even better than the big day i thought. that is the time when it's just the 2 of you and you can relax and enjoy eachother and remininsce about the day. take lots of pics of your honeymoon too....we still look at those and talk about our honeymoon all the time. where did you decide to go btw???

Have fun and good luck guys....it will all work out, try not to stress too much....no one will know any different if something doesn't go according to plan. :)
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Frances Johnson · 777 weeks ago

First remember that "this too shall pass"...Well in my humble opinion the days before and the day of the wedding pass way too quickly so savor every moment. Between now and the day of the wedding plan a day for just you and Ronnie to just have fun with no wedding planning or talk (even if you are working on the house)
Second: it sounds like Ronnie keeps you calm. So Ronnie call often remind her what this all about (your love for each other)...she will probably listen to you better than anyone else. When my husband would call just the sound of his voice would put me at ease. ENJOY THE DAY and EACH OTHER!
Don't kiss from now until the moment you are pronounced man and wife:) That was the most memorable part of our wedding.
Best advice I can offer is to pick three things you want to focus on or to be perfect ie- cake, favors, flowers, photography.... You can't control everything and it helps if you have just the important (to you) things to really focus on. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to ignore other things, just realize that not everything is going to go according to plan but it will be beautiful NO MATTER what! We can't wait to see pics!!

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